Conceptual and Research Notes around Shared Fields,
Attunement, Healing, and Different Kinds of Interactive Spaces
Part I, from Dr Daniel Siegel’s “The Neurobiology of We”:
How we share energy and information flow across two people involves RESONANCE CIRCUITRY.
The parts of brain involved include mirror neurons, the insula and the prefrontal cortex.
This resonance circuitry is the core of the social brain.
There is scientific evidence to suggest that the brain is hard-wired to connect with the brains of others, from the beginning of life.
The way
we become aware of others’ minds is also hard-wired into our brains, in a way
that we come to resonate with others’ states.
We then:
- take that information from the resonance,
- examine our own internal states,
- then make a guess ( based upon what we think is going on inside of us) as to what is going on with the other person.
This is the route of empathy.
Notice the relationship between insight (“in-sight”, seeing inside of us) and empathy (sensing another).
One is
needed for the other.
Mirror
neurons allow the brain to connect with at least what we perceive as an ACTION
WITH INTENTION in someone else, with our own readiness to carry it out. These
neurons link perception, with the motor areas of brain. Not only do these
neurons fire in imitating another’s action, but affective (feeling) states are
picked up.
These mirror neurons form a simulation in us of another person’s state of mind, or their feeling state.
Mirror
neurons are part of a much larger brain circuitry. As they interact with other
areas of brain, this leads to the creation of a “map” of what is about to
happen next.
All of this is subcortical, meaning that it is below our usual conscious awareness.
These subcortical shifts change our state of mind.
And that information, of the awareness of some change in mind or feeling in the body, brainstem and limbic system are brought up through the insula, and then to the medial prefrontal cortex.
Some call this interoception - the process where we are sensing inside (consciously or unconsciously) and asking what is going on in the body, asking what the body is trying to signal now.
To quote Dr Siegel: “So, if
we are wise enough, we will ask our bodies ‘what are we feeling?’… ‘What are
you trying to tell me now?’”
[ Does this sound like any process you are familiar with J ]
This shows how we can invite the signals, the energy and information from another, to actually enter us.
In a way, the energy and information from
another become a part of us
LITERALLY, by becoming part of the energy and information flow INSIDE OF OUR
OWN SUBCORTICAL AREAS.
[He is not using Focusing language here, but
you can make the connections to it]:
We can consciously access and influence this
process if we have the sensitivity and courage to:
-
be aware of our own mind/body signals ….
-
allow the in-sights that we have to mix with the empathy for another …
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Then, as we have “images” of another’s mind, we can allow ourselves to send
signals to them;
…..that,
we see them
…..
that we are caring about them
……and,
that we are also changed because of them.
This is the essence of the “neurobiology of We”.
This really is a deep way of opening our bodily selves and the essence of our “mental/emotional experience” is opened to joining.
(How this happens is more elaborate than simply mirror neurons. They are a small part of the circuit. The larger part is about joining and resonating, NOT about becoming the other person (fusion).)
Joining is not the same as mirroring. This is, ideally, we as separate individuals linking our integrated selves, with another person in a functional whole in that moment.
In a
relationship, one is trying to promote the integration of 2 differentiated
beings. I become a part of you, but I don’t become you. The idea is to honor
differences, and, link into a wholeness.
If I let the resonance circuitry do its job (developed over millions of years of evolution), then I will be able to be present.
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Part 2, love as “feeling felt” by another.
Attunement and connection….
Dr. Barbara Fredrickson Love 2.0 “love as micro-moments of connection”
Christian Pankhurst (HeartIQ): “Love is me, feeling you feeling me”
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Part 3 Our capacities to
support and inter-affect each other can help each other move towards more
wholeness/healing …
Going back to this sentence of Dr
Siegel’s:
“The idea is: to honor
differences,
and, link into a wholeness …”
Most descriptions of “healing” involve re-connecting to a wholeness, to some larger experience than what we are
identified with in that moment.
Many healing processes involve connecting with some larger fabric, be it within oneself, with the earth and other life forms, with others and community, or with spiritual dimensions of existence.
….from 2011 Folio article
“Zigzagging Our Way Into Expanded Possibilities for
Focusing”
http://serviceoflife.info/focusing/findex.html (and scroll down to “Zigzagging…”)
In
a study in 1987, two researchers describe
how brainwave patterns between people can coordinate and align, in their study
on brain wave synchrony between two people. (Grinberg-Zylberbaum, J.
& Ramos, J. 1987. Patterns of interhemispheric correlation during human
communication. International Journal of Neuroscience 36: 41-52)
Each
person in their pairs was instructed to close their eyes and “try to
become aware of the other’s presence”.
During
the periods when both people reported that they had developed this
awareness, the inter-hemispheric correlation brain wave patterns
of each brain were very similar to the other.
If partners reported that “it feels like
we have blended”, the EEG patterns were nearly identical.
There
was no such synchrony when they just sat in silence alone without holding
an intention to connect/attune with the other.
In addition, the researchers found that
the person with the higher amount of initial right brain-left
brain synchrony, was the one who most influenced the sessions.
The
implication is that, if we center and ground more deeply, we can contribute to
a partner, client or group’s increased well-being and level of connection.
You
may have experienced how one person in a group who speaks from a deeply
connected place can bring other participants to a more connected level within
themselves and in the group as a whole.
Perhaps what one
person brings in terms of an embodied understanding can
resonate with others, allowing a synchrony to occur, an alignment, a healing or
growing….
Some spiritual
traditions utilize the capacity of a master teacher to transmit a blessing or a
state of consciousness to students and devotees – such as in offering darshan (a Sanskrit term meaning "sight" or
“seeing”). The student attempts to open to,
and attune to, the teacher’s energy. At times, a transmission is received that
affects the consciousness of the student.
Notice similar elements
here to the brainwave study
- intention, opening, attuning to another….
The findings that the
one with the most synchrony is the one more likely to influence the other,
suggests that, through attunement and resonance, the teacher can help the student enter into,
or closer to, the teacher’s level of synchrony/integration (at least
temporarily.)
Taking this into
more subtle realms…
Dr Lawrence LeShan
(past president of Association for Humanistic Psychology) has done research
into the particular worldviews of psychic healers when in the
healing state. He has found that shifting one’s own worldview
(understanding and relationship with the universe) can allow certain kinds of
healing to occur7.
Based on this
finding, he was able to learn and teach healing based on principles most
healers had in common:
- centering, grounding oneself
- making an
intention to connect with, and to be of service to a
particular person or group
- holding an
image (a worldview, an experiential belief) of connectedness and wholeness
in one’s awareness.
Greg Braden
describes a form of healing where either the client,
the “healer”, or both, hold a multi-sensory image (felt, visual, etc.) of a
desired or ideal state in which they experience the client as if already
healed, as if the healing has already occurred in the present. (Braden, 2011 – video reference), transmitting a pattern of wholeness.
Gandhi’s “Be the
change that you want to see happen” is an application of these the same
principles to spiritual activism. If one lives as if something were already
true, that pattern helps organize life energies in accordance with it.
Within Focusing, two
examples of intentionally calling forth a positive outcome from the body, and
then attuning to what comes, are:
-
the question: “What
would come in my body if this were all ok?”
-
the Widening step in Recovery Focusing (experiencing "what could be" and
expanding that felt sense.)
As we see here, in
Focusing, the ‘vision’ comes primarily from the body, rather than being held
primarily by one’s conscious mind. These allow the possibility of a additional source of information
and integration (bodily-felt) than one might achieve by using mental intention
alone.
Part 4
- Otto Scharmer “Presencing” and “Uncovering the Grammar of the Social
Field”
Here are a few segments of this
magnificent article:
15. Mirroring.
To change the operating levels of a social field, people need a mechanism that
helps them bend
the beam of observation back onto the observing self. When this
happens for the individual (micro), we call it mindfulness.
Mindfulness is the capacity to pay attention to your attention.
When this happens in a group, we call it dialogue. Dialogue is not people
talking to each other. Dialogue is the capacity of a system to see
itself. ….
In the moment that the deeper interiority of the social
field opens up, the first-person experience for those inside the field tends
to shift.
Table 1 (next page) tracks these changes in how we
experience reality along seven different dimensions that each keep shifting as
the degree of interiority of a social field deepens:
12. Non-locality.
Generative social fields regenerate and to some degree replicate or multiply
themselves over time - -often over many, many years; they also transcend the
boundary of space by becoming non-local.
Being non-local means that, once I have a deep heart-to-heart connection
with the other, I can feel the impact of this relationship and its real-time
changes regardless of our spatial proximity.
16. Holding
Spaces for Courage, Love, Listening. In early 2015, we asked
the 10,000 plus participants in a global U.Lab what
it would take to realize their "highest future possibility." What
would it take to bring it into reality "as it desires" (Martin
Buber)? Their resounding answer was simple and clear: courage!
Then we asked them what support they would need from others in order to
actually make it happen, to make it work. Again their answers very clear: love, listening and trust!
Profound shifts in small groups tend to happen when the two following
conditions are in place:
(1)
individual courage and
vulnerability, and
(2)
a holding space of deep
listening with unconditional love.
Table
1: Four Social Fields, Seven Dimensions of First-Person Experience