ZIGZAGGING INTO
EXPANDED POSSIBILITIES FOR FOCUSING
Bruce Nayowith M.D.
Note: The
original version of this article
contains references to radiophysics and epigenetics, then suggests ways that these can be used an analogies to
expand the practice of Focusing. This version omits most of the science
references, and has been further streamlined and edited for greater clarity. Footnotes
are indicated by the small numbers within the text. They refer to further commentaries available online
.
0. Summary
of ideas offered here
- felt-sensing is a
directional process, which can be intentionally attuned into various areas
- mental models and belief
systems can guide the sensing-into, and the transmitting of, energies and ideas
--this combination of
mental models and belief systems, could be termed a "reflecting system"
that we "focus into".
- the choice of reflecting
system shapes process and outcomes
- through the combination
of intention and bodily-felt connection, we can influence much smaller
(cellular) and larger (social) systems than we may have imagined.
I.Starting
with a particular definition of Focusing
A definition
of Focusing that makes helpful distinctions, and will set the stage for this
paper, was articulated by Bruce Gibbs. Quite a few processes contact and work
with felt-senses – but not usually in the same way as in Focusing. In order to
understand this better, he distinguishes three levels of relating to
felt-sensing:
a) Contacting a felt-sense:
Something in the body that has meaning, which is not yet clear in
the mind.
This level brings felt-sensing into awareness, but does not prescribe
what kind
of relationship one has with the felt
sense – one may push, ignore, or manipulate felt
experiencing.
b) Mindful Awareness: Bringing
mindful, loving attention (compassion and/or
interested
curiosity) to felt experiencing. Just being with felt experiencing in an
open,
accepting,
connecting manner.1
c) Focusing: Focusing can be described
as a zigzagging and a checking – offering
mindful
loving attention (“mindful awareness”), between felt experiencing and
the
symbolic,
the conceptual, continually checking with the body for rightness or fit.
II. Pointing our sensing into new areas
“To
do the impossible, one must be able to perceive the invisible.”
Directing an antenna to find a signal often involves
pointing it in a certain way. Sensing-into is sensing in, to something–
some particular direction, in to some particular something.5
In Focusing, felt-sensing is often considered to be
a neutral process. In part, this is because one of the ways of “going in” is
very open-ended. For example, as Focusers we are taught that we can ‘go in’
with a very general question, such as “what is wanting my attention today?”
Of course, we also know that we can choose to ‘go in’ with a specific question, and invite a felt
sense about that. Yet it’s not often
recognized that even when we are going inside with an open-ended invitation,
that invitation is often still patterned by our existing beliefs and
assumptions.
Those existing beliefs and assumptions not only
color and shape our “open-ended” Focusing invitations, they also tend to
constrain our sense of possibility, of what we can choose to intentionally
“sense into”, when we are doing the second, more directed form of “going
inside”..
I first became aware of the enormous possibilities
for using directed Focusing to attune and develop our felt sensitivity in new ways, during a workshop on
“Focusing and Architecture” offered by Ellen Kirschner.
After an introduction, participants were encouraged
to 'sense in a Focusing way' into various architectural qualities, such as
space and design, and then to share with the group what they were sensing.
Each person both did his or her own sensing
– and, he or she also had the opportunity to hear and resonate with what
others were finding through their own felt-sensing inquiries.
We appreciated the rapid learning as we developed
a new sensitivity to (and capacity to articulate) what had been a
completely new area for some of us. We had just acquired a new
‘felt-sensitivity’!
We also realized that the process we had used led to
a more rapid understanding and a greater depth of connection with
the subject than any one person could have developed alone. This format could
serve as a model for teaching how to expand what one can
sense-into.
As we examine this process more carefully, we may
notice some of these elements present:
- Being
clear about what it is, that one is wanting to learn to consciously sense into
(directing the antenna)
- A
setting where one can get direct experience and feedback from others who have content mastery (having something to align to) . In this
case, Ellen was part of the group, offering her own feedback to the
participants.
- A
co-sensing system, synergistic group process is used. Each observation
or suggestion or concept is allowed to resonate within and between members. Each
offering is taken in to see what is evoked in response, just as we would
"take in" a reflection that someone offers us in Focusing.
These insights suggest a valuable use of the
Focusing process. Focusing can be used to help people learn more fully and
deeply from others who have acquired particular skills and sensitivities in
almost any field.
For example, one painting instructor may be finely
attuned to subtleties of contrast, another to shading, and still another to
perspective.
One therapist may be highly attuned to the sense of
internal connection a person has to him/her self, another to the attachment
dance between a couple, and another to the object relations.
This Focusing-compatible process can accelerate our
own learning of and sensitivity to these qualities, especially when we are able
to explore this in a supportive cooperative setting, such as the architecture
workshop described earlier.
Yet sometimes the individual themselves might not be
able to fully articulate their own attuning and felt-sensing process. How then,
might we learn from these individuals' highly developed gifts?
We might begin by intentionally inquiring about,
and/or sensing-into, a particular person’s perceptual gifts, to develop a sense
of what they are tracking and connecting with in their work. We can resonate
what comes with that person’s own experience of what they are doing, and with
our experience of what we are noticing from our perspective – zigzagging between
outer observations and inner felt-sensings, checking
for better and better fit….
From the perspective of teaching Focusing, it could be helpful to expand the content of our
current Focusing trainings to include learning how to discover what it is, to which
a master practitioner in a particular field or practice is attuning. In other
words, we want to be able to discover HOW a particular person is using their
natural felt-sensing process, regardless of whether they have formal training
in Focusing or not.
III. Attention, permission, and mental
models
As conscious beings, we have the potential to
influence some old and habitual processes.
New or unexpected information may be considered as
‘background noise’ and not be registered consciously. Our filtering mechanisms
run akin to software programs, on autopilot. If we are not aware of
something existing, or if we believe that something is not possible, then
energy and information actually coming to us from those areas may not make it
to our cortex – or be registered in awareness – unless the signal is strong
enough to be registered above the filters we have.
If felt sensing can be pointed like a directional
antenna, what shapes the direction of our transmitting-into, and
receiving-from? (see
illustration on next page)
We can stop, notice, and become aware that there are
other possibilities, and then attempt to connect with them.
We can then select, or search for, something else.
Analogous to a radio, we can choose to change
channels to another frequency that we are already familiar with...
or…
we can hit the ‘search’ button, and sense into a more open field of what
is out there, scanning until something registers on our sensors, and we begin
to tune-into it.
It is important to also be aware of the key role
of the pause in this process. Pausing allows a stepping back from a
presently operating pattern and making space for allowing a different one to
occur.
FACTORS
THAT ENCOURAGE SHIFTING OF HABITUAL PATTERNS
I appreciate Tom
Atlee http://co-intelligence.org/
introducing me to the term ‘relevation’ – how
making something more relevant helps call it forth into occurring. I have heard
it described as an elevation of something that is implicit, to more explicit
manifestation depending on relevance to the depth of need that is present.
Another
way to help us search or direct our attention into ways beyond the habitual is
through the use of ideas – such as a model or theory. These can also offer
encouragement and permission.
Giving
permission or welcome may bypass limiting beliefs that might hold one back from
sensing into particular directions, or from registering ‘what came’ when doing
so. Permission and acceptance also may encourage sensing into areas that were
habitually unrecognized.
An
example of this comes from Treasure Maps to the Soul Focusing. If we are aware of really wanting to do something (write an
article, for example) but feel that we cannot, feel blocked in some way,
this model presupposes the existence of a part of us, presently out of our
awareness, that does not want to do that very thing (write the paper).
Asking, and then sensing inside, if
such a part exists, often connects us with a very powerful dynamic
, something new that we were not aware of previously while operating in our
habitual Focusing manner.
(In this case, the habitual pattern is being
overly identified with one part of an opposed pair of wantings,
and not sensing the other.)
As
another example,,.. I have always been interested in how people have learned to become “intuitive”. When I ask
the intuitives I have met over the past 25 years,
many of them have given me the same response:
“A workshop,
(or a teacher) gave me permission to be intuitive. Then we were encouraged to
practice, and got better at it.”
In those cases, the mental model that offered permission was: “Becoming
intuitive is possible. And, you have the capacity to do so.” The participants’ ensuing experiences in the
workshop support the results of their operating from that belief.
While other factors are also at play (a supportive group, sharing
percepts in a co-sensing environment, self-selection bias of attendees) possibility and permission are crucial elements.
IV. Roles of beliefs and attitudes in shaping flow of energy
and information
While we often hold the realms of thinking and feeling as quite separate
from each other, “mental models” – beliefs, concepts, and ideas - do influence
our sensing.
Focusing is often so useful
in getting past certain types of stuckness, that it
is easy to lose sight of the fact that sometimes the life-forward step in
certain situations is a change in the conceptual – into a new perspective or understanding. Sometimes a
‘knowing’ is what can carry us forward.
Just as we have habitual
ways of thinking, we also have habitual ways of feeling, and habitual ways of felt-sensing.
Sometimes, when we pause to notice, we can identify the situation or remember a
concept (“That sounds like a critical voice”, or “I feel way shut down – I
wonder if some shame is here”, etc.) that gives us another way to frame things,
another way to relate to our experiencing, so that we can be with it and interact with
it more spaciously and constructively.
This conceptual change can
help us find ways to shift out of being too caught in something, too close to
it; on the other end of things, it can also help us connect with felt-sensings that
might otherwise be too distant for our
previous sensing modes to detect and connect with.
Aligning with
an idea can help us connect with the life-forward-movement that we may not be able to feel, but that we can know must
be there. If we become aware of
the possibility of something existing, and are offered cues or guidelines, then
we may be able to make sense of our
sensing, so to speak.
As an example of the roles that beliefs and attitudes play in shaping
flows of energy and information, I would like to point to a few of the
worldviews/mental models regarding illness and suffering.
a) Illness is caused by a biological or
chemical imbalance or aberration (machine model, common in Western medicine).
b) Being sick means that something is
defective inside of you (very old, shame-based worldview. Sadly, this has
mutated into a new variation, the “New Age Guilt Trip”… “If you can’t heal
yourself from your dis-ease, you must be really messed up!”)
c) What happens to us is the result of
Fate. It is destiny, and we can learn to deal with it (a fatalistic worldview).
d) Illness as
understood through the lens of the Buddhist Four Noble Truths, which describe
the truth of suffering, its causes, and cessation.
e) Dis-ease comes from being out of
balance; there are ways of regaining balance… (many
holistic modalities). Some are more prescriptive, and others more allowing and
listening-receptively based)
f) Who you really are is fundamentally
good. Your distress is just your stuff, and you are not your stuff. After
emotional discharge, you can think more clearly. (Re-evaluation
counseling and others).
g) Your distress is some aspect of Life
singing a song of something it wishes to become, some way it wishes to help.
Something that seems to be a problem may be life’s new growth edge, encouraging
the system to evolve further. (This idea is incorporated into the practice of Jin Shin Jyutsu, for example.)
Each of these different
understandings
– about the nature of who we are, our distress, and our relationship to the
larger world – leads to an entirely
different orientation to our situation.
Sam
Keen speaks to the implications of this quite succinctly:
“Be careful whom you let diagnose your
disease - for you then give them power over its cure.” (Keen,
1985)
V. How beliefs and worldviews affect the
sensing-into process
“A belief is a thought that channels
energies all of the time” (Patent, 2011).
Depending
on which belief systems around the nature of illness and disease we are operating
within, we might make different choices, interpret what happened differently,
monitor different parameters, relate to ourselves and the distress differently,
etc.
We
might welcome our symptoms, treat them with medication to suppress them, allow
them to deepen our mindfulness, encourage emotional catharsis, or just hide
them!
If
we were to engage in Focusing with our symptoms, results would vary according
to which worldview we are holding as we sense into them.
For
example, our felt-sensing would be directed very differently if we were working
within an allopathic medicine worldview. We could be sensing into medical
diagnostic clues, and encouraging patients to sense into their felt rightness
about various medical treatment options.
This
would be very different to an “illness as a turning point” model (LeShan 1990), where someone might be sensing into what
wants to emerge, what “song wants to be sung”.
We have seen that felt-sensing can be directed
in certain ways by intention and mental models.
And that mental models
include beliefs about what matters and how things work and interact.
Therefore,
our felt-sensing can be significantly influenced
by our beliefs. This includes beliefs held by the client, beliefs held
by the healers (when applicable), and beliefs implicit within the process used
for healing.
Besides
the placebo effect, that the patient’s and provider’s belief in the efficacy of
a medicine will strongly affect their own outcomes, there are also various
forms of transmission from the listener or healer that can subtly (or
not-so-subtly!) shape the outcome..
For
example, Jane Bell, practitioner of both Focusing and shamanism, has noted that
a number of her clients - who have had traditional Focusing experiences with
other Focusing listeners - often spontaneously experience shamanic content
(animal spirits, etc) during their Focusing sessions
with her. These clients were unaware of her shamanic background.
VI. The transmission of patterns
In
homeopathic medicine, the practitioner seeks a remedy that matches the disorder,
and in some ways resonates with it. “Like cures like.”
A
solution is then made from this remedy which is so dilute that no molecules of the remedy remain in the
solution – only the informational
pattern or energy remains. This
pattern can act as a “seed crystal”, to allow a reparative internal
re-organization and re-alignment to occur.
(Lansky, 2011).
[The original paper has a reference about research on this J.
Aissa et al., “Transatlantic Transfer of Digitized
Antigen Signal by Telephone Link,’ Journal of Allergy and Clinical Immunology
99 (1997): S175.]
Brainwave
patterns between people can coordinate and align. A Brain-Mind Bulletin issue
from 1989 describes a study on brain wave synchrony between two people (Grinberg-Zylberbaum &
Ramos, 1987). Each person in their
pairs was instructed to close their eyes and “try to become aware of the
other’s presence”.
During the periods when both people reported that they had
developed this awareness, the inter-hemispheric correlation brain wave patterns
of each brain were very similar to the other.
If partners reported
that “it feels like we have blended”, the EEG patterns were nearly identical.
Conversely, there was no such synchrony when they just sat
in silence alone not trying to attune to each other.
In
addition, the researchers found that the person with the highest
concordance (the one with higher amount of right brain-left brain
synchrony) was the one who most influenced the sessions.
The implication is that, by centering
and grounding more deeply, any of us can contribute to a partner, client or
group’s increased well-being and level of connection. You may have experienced
how someone in a group speaking from a deeply connected place can bring other
participants to a more connected level. (Many participants in Community
Wellness Focusing groups experience this dynamic on a regular basis.)
Energetic
transmission is affected by intention and belief systems. Since Focusing allows
such a sensitivity to felt qualities, more attention to the role of worldviews
and intentions within the practice, experience, and teaching of Focusing would
add power to the practice.6
VII.
Examples of intentionally transmitting a state of consciousness or energetic
pattern
Along
the lines of the brain wave experiment described two sections above, perhaps what
one person brings in terms of an embodied understanding can resonate with others, allowing a synchrony
to occur, an alignment, a healing or growing.
A
number of spiritual traditions utilize the capacity of a master teacher to
transmit a blessing or a state of consciousness to students and devotees – such
as in offering darshan (a Sanskrit term meaning "sight" or
“seeing”). The student
attempts to open to, and attune to, the teacher’s energy. At times, a
transmission is received that affects the consciousness of the student.
This
process parallels the study findings on EEG synchrony between people. One can
notice the same elements here - intention,
opening, attuning to….
The study’s findings that the one with the
most synchrony (teacher) is the one more likely toinfluence
the other, through the process of attunement and resonance, suggests that the
teacher can bring the student up towards the teacher’s level of
synchrony/integration, at least temporarily.
Reiki,
Therapeutic Touch, and other forms of energy healing are intended to transmit
certain qualities through the healer-as-channel (first connecting and
receiving, and then transmitting) to the client.
Lawrence
LeShan has done research into the particular
worldviews of psychic healers when in the healing state. He has found that
shifting one’s own worldview (understanding and relationship with the universe)
can allow certain kinds of healing to occur7.
Based
on this finding, he was able to learn and teach healing based on principles most
healers had in common:
-
centering, grounding oneself
-
making an intention to be of service to a particular person or group
-
holding an image (a worldview, an experiential belief) of
connectedness and
wholeness in one’s
awareness.
As
another variation on this theme, Greg Braden describes a form of healing where either
the client, the “healer”, or both, hold a multi-sensory image (felt,
visual, etc.) of a desired or ideal state in which they experience the
client as if already healed, as if the healing has already occurred
in the present. (Braden, 2011 – video reference)
Gandhi’s
“Be the change that you want to see happen” may be seen as an application of
these the same principles to spiritual activism. If one lives as if something
were already true, that pattern helps organize life energies along those lines.
Within
Focusing, two examples of intentionally calling forth a positive outcome from
the body include:
-
the question: “What
would come in my body if this were all ok?”
- the Widening step in Recovery
Focusing (experiencing "what could
be" and expanding that felt sense.)
In
Focusing, as we see in these two examples, the ‘vision’ comes primarily from
the body, rather than being directed primarily by one’s conscious mind. These
allow the possibility of another source of information and integration than one
could achieve by mental intention alone.
VIII.
Amplification of signals and patterns through Reflecting Systems
Up
to this point, we have been exploring rather subtle forms of transmitting
energy and influencing others, and the role that our belief systems play in
this process. . But these basic principles also apply to the very common intentional transmissions that occur
while Focusing – what we usually call reflections.
But,
wait – aren’t reflections just a neutral way to hold space and help someone
hear back their words, and connect more deeply with their own experiential
process? Like holding up a mirror –
nothing is added, right?....
That
is sometimes how the process of reflecting is thought about. But in these days
of relativity theory and post-modernism, is it any surprise to consider that
all reflections may have some inherent reference point, some intention and
belief system implicit within them?
Even
with mirrors, there are many kinds - parabolic, convex, flat, etc. Likewise,
there are many kinds of reflections, each which shapes the incoming energies
and directs them in different ways.
As
we follow the experiential flow of another’s process, we may reflect something
back to them to help support their process. What we choose to reflect depends
on what one believes is important or significant to facilitating the process.
We
may have been taught that “holding space” is helpful, or that “slowing down” is
helpful, that “helping someone hear their own words back” is helpful. Here we
can see that reflections (implicitly)
contain a worldview - about what is
believed to be important or significant to the process!
In
Focusing, we are often taught to reflect back either what the speaker says, or
feelings, or felt meaning, to support the client’s process in being with and
holding their felt experiencing.
But
there are other possibilities, as well. Just as in
sensing-into, reflecting is somewhat directional. We chose, consciously or
unconsciously, to reflect back particular aspects of someone’s experiencing.
In turn, this is subtly shaping the experiencing of the person receiving these
reflections..
David Young, LICSW, learned something about this in 1985 during a
Changes Group experience with Marshall Rosenberg, who was present in his triad
while Dave was listening to a person who had been coming for years and had
never made any progress during his turns (Young,
2008).
[ Marshall Rosenberg
founded Non Violent Communication. He often listens for, and reflects, feelings
and “needs” – what he senses is alive in the other person as they talk. As an
example, when listening to someone who is expressing a judgment, he will not usually
reflect those words of judgment back. Instead, making the intention to connect, he
may offer a guess at what needs may be underneath their judgment, and have the
speaker check that for fit.]
“. . . Marshall listens to Z, but in a much different way, and
Z gets to some honesty -- not to change, but to a touch of reality, connecting
with what's alive in him.
“All my classic, careful empathic Listening, and all Jane's and
many others' beautiful Listening -- hours & hours for years -- didn't do
what Marshall did in a few minutes.
“During an earlier Changes, Jane had spent the entire two hours
Listening to Z, determined to get through.
Nothing. With Marshall, Z arrives at what Gene might call "the
edge".
“ Afterwards, I
ask Marshall how he knew to do that.”
“Have you
noticed," Marshall asks, "when you reflect content, you get more
content?"
“Sure, Marshall,” I
reply, puzzled.
“And have you noticed, when you reflect
feelings, you get more feelings?"
I frown. "Of course.”
Marshall fixes me with his dark intense eyes. “When you reflect an alienated
view of the world, you just get more alienation.”
Marshall
is aware that simply listening and reflecting back words spoken – if those
words came out of a disconnected place in the speaker - may not create any sense of connection or
forward movement. Since whenever we reflect, we are implicitly conveying a
particular worldview, the choice of what and how we reflect is a crucial one.
To illustrate this further, here are a
few aspects of the flow of experiencing that we may be able to sense into
and reflect back – besides words, feelings, and felt meaning8:
-
reflecting back the partial nature of an experience to
decrease overidentification with a part “something
in you is feeling….” done in Inner Relationship Focusing (Cornell)
- reflecting back feelings in the context of
needs (NonViolent Communication)
- reflecting back the aliveness of a
person’s process (Gendlin9 )
- reflecting back the therapist’s sense of the
attachment dance between a couple (Sue Johnson, Emotionally Focused
Therapy)
- reflecting back the parent or teacher’s
awareness of qualities of greatness in the child in that moment
(Howard Glasser’s Nurtured Heart Approach) (Glasser, 2011) (Glasser, 2010)
-
reflecting back qualities of spaciousness or holding that seem to
be present in the
situation (some meditations reflect back the space around the
objects of awareness)
- reflecting back the divinity within
someone (numerous spiritual teachers)
A
“worldview or mental model, along with
the reflections we offer based on that model”, is what I term a “reflecting
system”. I like this term because it contains an understanding that the
directionality of someone’s felt-sensing, the directionality of the reflections
that are being offered back, and the implicit beliefs held by each person, are all
part of a system, and that these various elements all inter-affect one another.
VI.
Mental models and felt sensing direction as differentiating features among
Focusing styles
One
meaningful way to distinguish differences in the various schools of Focusing is
by studying their models and how these models direct the felt-sensing in
distinct ways.
As
mentioned in , one of the several powerful aspects of
the framework, or mental model, of Treasure Maps of the Soul (Cornell and McGavin) is the acknowledgment of felt dissociation. It recognizes a number of patterns of stuckness, and suggests ways to become aware of parts that
were dissociated out of our experience, and invite them in to the conscious
experiential flow.
Recovery
Focusing, another Focusing model, is grounded in the 12-Step tradition. Each
step incorporates a felt-sensing dimension. Felt-sensing in the context of each
step is done in three phases, or three ‘directions’.
Each
of these ‘directions’ guides the sensing differently and encourages support and
forward movement in dealing with addictions: first resourcing, then connecting with the
difficult places, then allowing the body’s knowing of what it wants to become,
to carry a person forward:
The
"Honoring" phase is about experiencing a positive "helper"
felt sense to begin the process. We could see this step as “resourcing”.
The
"Opening" phase is about exploring the "stuck
process/pattern" (in this case certain aspects of addiction);
and the Widening
phase is about experiencing "what could be" and expanding that felt
sense. S.Noel (personal communication, Nov. 20th, 2011).
This
lens of seeing how felt sensing is being guided along certain mental models, could be used to understand the workings of other
schools of Focusing as well (Domain Focusing, Wholebody
Focusing, Biospiritual Focusing…).
Each
master teacher has their own particular concepts, their own worldview about
felt sensing, their own helpful maps for navigating
one’s inner environment.
In
addition, each master teacher brings their own personal refined attunements,
their cultivated felt-sensitivity in certain areas.
Once
we are aware of this, we could begin to consciously articulate these aspects
for each style of Focusing. This clarification could help
students increase their “fluency” in several different styles of Focusing
without the expense and time involved in having to begin at the very
beginning.
Once a practitioner of Focusing knows
the basic “operating system” (zigzagging between felt-sensing and
the conceptual), they can use this
approach to learn and practice the new conceptual models and particular felt
attunements associated with any particular style they wish to learn. This
framework could allow them to do so with greater ease than they might otherwise.
X.
Sensing into different models of who we are, and what the universe is like
“But that is not
all!
Oh, no!
That is not all...”
said the Cat
in the Hat
(Geisel,
1957).
So far, we might consider learning to
attune our sensors into activities within cells with using felt-sensing as a
microscope.
We can also shift the lenses of
felt-sensing outward as a sort of telescope - towards the sensing of “larger
bodies”.
Resonance and harmonics occur at a
cellular level, with organs, at the level of individuals, and in larger groups.
Perhaps these larger patterns can be sensed into, and transmitted into, as
well.
As we explore
this, we can remember that our worldviews affect our sensing-into, so some of what we find in our Focusing
will depend upon our worldview that we are holding while Focusing.
The most common worldview used in Focusing is
seeing ourselves as separate beings, each with our own
distinct processes. We each take our own personal turn. We respect each other’s
process, and avoid interfering with each other’s content, which is considered
to be disruptive or intrusive.
This
description may seem so obvious, that it may be considered by many as “how
Focusing is done correctly.” Some are concerned that deviating from these
traditional guidelines will threaten the sanctity and protection which makes
the Focusing process so gentle and safe.
Yet,
if sensing can be directional, then new
mental models can offer new directions to sense into.
So,
what might occur if we did Focusing while holding other ways of understanding reality:
1)
While Focusing, people sometimes experience a sense of a “third thing”, a
presence or sense of grace that is palpable, that occurs without intentionally
attempting to seek it. What might come if we intentionally directed our sensing
into the “between space” of interpersonal resonance? With each person sensing
into a shared field and shared space of interactive content, it might begin to unfold with qualities of its own as it was offered attention.
2) Given that we ourselves are a part of
larger bodies, such as a community (perhaps even an Earthbody),
which might happen if we allowed ourselves to sense into that larger body?
Where in Earth’s body might IT be feeling
ITS feelings? ( one way to explore this is at http://www.serviceoflife.info/focusing/healingplaneten1.html )
3) Rather than working with ourselves as
discrete entities, what kind of sensing and receiving might occur if we also
did Focusing from the perspective of ourselves as interpenetrating waves of
energy and information that inter-affect each other? How would our habitual sense
of who we feel ourselves to be, and how we relate to each other and the world
around us be affected?
(Neil
Dunaetz has done some very interesting initial
explorations in this area, as an outgrowth of his work with Gendlin’s
Process model; Glenn
Fleisch and Karen Whalen have written about this in the
2011 Folio.)
4) We assume that it is “we” who are doing
the Focusing, offering our attention to various aspects of our experiencing. What
might arise if we considered that there might be a Larger Body that is Focusing, a larger ‘Something’ that is offering caring
attention to us as if we were felt senses, so that we can shift and
unfold into our right next steps? Such a process might involve a sort of
letting go into a larger loving attention, allowing ourselves to be shaped and
moved by it…
These
are all fascinating territories, left largely unexplored to date….
If we wish, we can choose to explore any of these other ways of
understanding reality. To do so, we might consider some of the basic principles
we have already explored here:
- choosing a direction
to explore,
- offering ourselves permission
to try something “completely different”,
- making
an intention,
- working
with someone who is already attuned in that area,
- and being part of a
co-sensing, co-reflecting group in these realms.
XI.
Toward
Closure
Due to space constraints, we have not delved
into to the physics of bias and
distortion. Analogous to how iron can cause a compass to deflect,
can felt-sensing be distorted or deflected? And how might it be protected from
such influences? (more
thoughts on this, on my website.)
Quite a bit of material has been offered here. Will it hold up in your practice? I encourage
you experiment and see what practical value you may find in applying these
concepts:
-
we have the capacity to intentionally attune our felt
sensing in particular directions
- mental models and belief systems can guide and support (as
well as constrain) our sensing and our transmitting/emanating
- the
choice of reflecting systems has an effect on the process and outcome
- when we are listening to someone, both transmitting and
receiving are occurring on various levels
- through the combination of intention and bodily-felt
connection, we can influence much smaller (cellular) and much larger (social)
systems than we may have imagined
Please
feel free to send me examples from your own experiences along these lines –
ones you have already had, as well as any new discoveries.
XII.
A caveat, as well as some possibilities of blessing…
As
excited as I am about these many concepts, I also acknowledge the good reasons
that many Focusing practitioners historically are cautious about applying
mental models and conscious intention to shape sensing and transmitting.
Focusing
includes a type of kinesthetic biofeedback, in which we can feel how various
aspects of our being are relating to each other. We can ask ourselves, or
others, to pause and to check:
“Is
something being too pushy?”
“Is
something feeling steamrollered?”
“How
is everything inside with what is being suggested? “
The
sensitivity to, and honoring of, bodily-felt process in Focusing makes us loath
to use the mind to influence our bodily-held process. We have experienced too
often how willpower and beliefs can be “abused” by one aspect of our being
against less verbal aspects.
The
power of intention is sometimes used to force or manipulate the body in ways
that do not respect its wisdom, that do not interact with it as partner. Fr. Ed
McMahon speaks to some of this, and how Focusing can offer one antidote to
this, in “Beyond the Myth of Dominance” (McMahon, 1993).
Focusing
has been described as practicing and offering a “non-colonizing relationship
with one’s inner landscape” (Zubizarreta,
2003). One
of its key gifts is encouraging us to establish a respectful partnership
between mind and body, listening, checking with, and following the lead of the
body’s life-forward knowing and moving.
At
the same time, a key point in this paper is that our minds, our intentions, and
our mental models, are ALREADY influencing our Focusing process, whether we are
aware of it or not. And so, rather than deny the role of our mind, in a
pendulum swing toward “the body”, we can work to consciously establish a
respectful partnership.
This
partnership is not only an internal one, but could lead to much fruitful
collaboration with other forms of practice. For example, the worldviews
implicit in the practice of Focusing could positively inform the worldviews of
those who seek to improve the world through intention and through working with
concepts. In combining deep and
respectful listening with the cognitive and the intentional, a dual channel
zigzag can help us integrate the conceptual and bodily-felt realms.
Focusing can help us hold conscious intention,
and also the
bodily-felt sense of intention, to help facilitate a synergy
between what may be two hands of one Larger Intention.
Perhaps
the zigzag and loving attention within Focusing can allow a crossing of what
the heart longs to express, with what the mind longs to know and achieve –
thereby carrying forward this vision of Teilhard de Chardin:
“Someday, after mastering the winds, the waves, the tides and gravity, we
shall harness for God the energies of love, and then, for a second time in the
history of the world, man will have discovered fire.”
Thank you for your participation in this
larger process.
Bruce Nayowith, M.D. practices emergency
medicine in western Massachusetts. He has an interest in learning and crossing
multiple disciplines that support aliveness, so that they can inform and deepen
one another. These include depth psychology, whole brain education, emergent group
processes, spiritual practices, NVC, Ken Wilber’s work, and Focusing. He can be
reached at bnayowith@yahoo.com
More
science and the bibliography are available in the original article at
http://www.serviceoflife.info/focusing/zigzaggingfolioarticle.htm
Much gratitude to my wife Rosa Zubizarreta for the edits on this revision.