Resources to Support Relationships

An Overview of Valuable Processes and Practices

This follow-up to our session from the 2026 Resonant Healing Summit introduces some practical processes and perspectives to increase connection and understanding and decrease unhealthy relational tensions (some tension can be creative, too much is not!).

This video blends an alchemical perspective with powerful and practical processes including:

Some brief Neurobiology
Alison Armstrong's work on 4 types of couples
Susan Johnson's Emotionally Focused Therapy approach
The Gottmans' work on what destroys and supports relationships
Nancy Dreyfuss' relational flashcards
Polarity Management
.... and several other perspectives and practices that can support healthy and vibrant relationships.

Link to the slide pack for Part Two is here: Download the Slide Pack

A few of the background images are AI-generated to match the themes of the presentation. The spoken content was created by myself.

Time Index

Time Stamps
Time	Topic
0:00	Introduction
1:30	Five Aspects of an alchemical perspective to relationships
2:40	Importance and Functions of Medial Prefrontal Cortex to mature relating
4:15	Emotional Induction and Projection
6:50	Table of Various Approaches to Couples' Work
8:10	Five Aspects of Alchemical Relational Process
8:40	Intentions in Relationship: Alison Armstrong's Four Types of Relationship
10:10	Shifting to a more constructive relational Stance
11:00	Three common patterns of unproductive stuckness
12:15	Common polarities in relationship that people can become stuck in
13:40	Great resources for working with polarities: “Polarity Management” and “Navigating Polarities”
14:45	“Being right is the easy step”
15:15	Example of using the Polarity Navigator chart
17:00	The concept of Protest Behavior
17:30	Accessibility, Responsiveness, Engagement
19:00	NVC as an Aikido move with respect to hearing judgments
20:00	Caring Restraints
21:15	Behaviors that predict divorce and breakup
24:20	Ways to monitor the state of our nervous system in relationship
26:00	Taking Time Out and using Relational Flash Cards
27:35	Caring Expressions: The Five Love Languages
29:00	Interpersonal Resonance and Resonant Language
30:30	Empathy does NOT work with grandiosity - Terry Real's work.
32:00	Some useful books and resources
33:00	Plates from famous alchemical texts

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